Destinee23: Thoughts From the Spirit

Below is an article from the blog of our Storm Sister Monsurat Ottun ,a poet and writer with a book currently in progress.

Her writing is contemplative and helps your spirit as she discusses the topics that cross our mind,but we cannot find the words to explain. She also poses the questions that can open us up and help us get out of our ruts.

From self/soul searching to love- check out this storm sister for a spiritual check in 😉
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Settling

Settling for less than you want is so much easier to do than to not do. I mean who wants to think that they’re settling? But we do. That’s what I do with my meantime. I settle. Yes my name is Monsi and I’m a settler! I sometimes settle for unreliable friends, for men that don’t respect me, I settle for whatever is in front of me at the moment, half the time knowing it’s not going to work out. “Give it a chance!” they say. So I do. Often times to realize that I was right in the first place and should’ve trusted my gut.

Maya Angelou said “The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.” I think the other part of that is Know Thyself. If you know who you are and know what you want and trust what you see when you meet other people, then you will know who you want and don’t want to attract; you’ll know who you want to be around and who you should stay away from. You’ll know what your triggers are, what you can’t handle and overall what works for you and what doesn’t.

To settle means to expect more from someone than they can or are willing to give. And then to get frustrated and/or upset when they are not meeting your needs or are just being themselves. They can only be them and you can only be you. It’s important to see things and people as they are. I mean after all, you do get what you settle for.

Too often I get into arguments with folks because I can’t seem to accept that they are who they are, which is sometimes in disagreement with who I am or how I feel about things. I know one thing that bothers me is ineffective listening, people that are so stuck in their ways and set on their own beliefs that they can’t seem to see where you’re coming from. I like honest and supportive folks in my life, folks that can have conversations, engage in colorful debate, and yet show respect for the other person’s ability to think and get passionate about something. I like people that aren’t afraid to think for themselves and challenge popular thought and opinion. And I know not everyone can be that. In fact, it’s quite uncommon. And that’s the reality.

In Shakespeare’s Hamlet, Polonius says to his son:

To thine own self be true. To thine own self be kind,
And you will find
There is no love to give that’s pure
Until you’re sure.

To thine own self be true. To thine own self be real
And you will feel
There is no need to fear the nearness of another.
To thine own self be true.

For, when you live and give to please another man
You stand to wound your soul;
And the lies give the cries to the injustice of it all,
But you are the only one who’s sure to fall.

To thine own self be true. To thine own self be free
And you will see
There’s no need to name and blame another, no.
To thine own self be true.

Well said.
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